MIND

A Rational, Powerful Way to Reframe Your Relationships

Are you surrounding yourself with the right people?

I find there is a beautiful ebb and flow to the way people enter our lives. Do you ever look back and have a laugh at how and when you met a certain person? Or how you managed to become close? I sure do.

Think about the people in your life and how they came to fill that role. We do not always put much conscious thought into the declaration of our relationships. They just kind of evolve. Sometimes this works out for the better, and then other times we wonder why our lives get so messy.

We are inherently social beings. Let’s use this to our advantage and add some structure to our social lives. Structure that will deepen our relationships and set the base for our priorities. More thoughtful relationships will improve our happiness and success.

MIND

How to Make Big Asks and Exciting Moves

Ask for what you want. It sounds easy, doesn’t it?

The most progressive people in this world get ahead because they go for the ask. They make unwavering moves and ask for big things – even if they are uncomfortable, nervous or down right scared of failure.

To propel forward, make some pretty crazy asks of others, and of yourself. You will stand out from the rest, earn respect for being bold and grow tremendously.

I have outlined a few concrete ways you can ask with the intention of expanding. There is a silver lining, though: ask in appropriate context and provide value. There must be a concrete reason for the ask and a value offering to the person who may give you their time, resources or support.

Brace yourself, and challenge the damn status quo. 

Here are three situational ways the forward-thinker can make unapologetic asks and kill it:

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How to Grow from Hardships with Time, Beautifully

Sixty-two months have passed.

And I still find myself learning from the struggle of that time.

On the first day of school this quarter, I got on the bus and sat there scrolling through Instagram when a thought pinged me, “Did I turn the stove top off?” Panic and paranoia set it, and I found myself crumbling at that crippling thought all day long.

Another day, I was in an important class and I got a missed called from my real estate agent on my lease. My real estate agent never calls. Panic set in, again.

In recent years, I haven’t really thought about this topic consciously much – but now that I live alone for the first time (which I do really enjoy), this hardship of my past time has resurfaced vividly.  However, I’ve used the hardship to make some forward-thinking strides to grow with time in a beautiful, healthy way. This mind frame can be applied to reframe our thoughts on hardship.

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3 Tips to Manifest the Law of Attraction

You’re vulnerable.

I’m vulnerable.

Just yesterday, someone told me this.  And it’s true.  We can only have control over so much. As humans, we aren’t invincible.

As people, however, we have the power use our vulnerability to our advantage. The funny thing is, most people don’t.  I see the people around me get wrapped up in the fear of their external problems all the time.

You aren’t making enough money. You don’t have enough friends. You aren’t getting the results you want in school or work.  These themes come up constantly, and they drive the average person’s life.

But what if you could see that you do have some money.  You do have that really solid friend or two.  You did succeed in that one assignment, or with that one manager for a moment.  I promise, things are better than you think they are.  Vulnerability can be an asset. Let’s explore the power in the Law of Attraction.

MIND

How to Find Self-Driven Happiness

“I would be happy, with or without you,” I said.

“How could you possibly be happy, without me?” he said.

Now before you think I’m cold for saying this, I really just was able to remove myself and look rationally at the bigger picture.  And damn, was it a good thing to realize for the sake of protecting my happiness.  My grounded-nature and comfortability in myself was simply at a different maturation then his.  Under a romantic lens, his question was coming from a place of love.  We did truly bring each other a lot of happiness.

But hey, I found that I am happy, just being me.  I loved him, and appreciated him deeply in my life – but I was still happy, just being me.  At times he stripped that from me to fill a personal void.  He needed me to be happy.  That’s a lot of pressure on a single person, especially when life get’s busy, or stressful, and you can’t be the happiness they need.  It was this moment where I narrowed in on the idea of self-driven happiness – and realized its importance, especially as a young adult.

Could you spend a day, a week, a month by yourself, and truly be happy?

Let’s think a moment on what happiness really is. For me, I’d like to argue that it’s about how content I am with my personal identity and the life surrounding my being.

After a long while apart, I sat on my friend’s back porch catching up as we prepared for the beginning of our last year in college. We got on the topic of living arrangements.  He lives with five roommates in a house; I live solo in a one-bedroom place. He finds deep comfort in the presence of his roommates; I find deep comfort in mindful silence. He asked me, “Don’t you think you’re going to get lonely?”